Discover What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like...
And Why CEN Can Make a Healthy Relationship Feel Wrong.
For a lot of people...
Growing up in an emotionally neglectful family can make it hard to know what a healthy relationship looks like.
Unless you experienced healthy love from your parents as you were growing up, it's hard to know what to look for and how to know when you've found healthy love.
Because of this...
Childhood Emotional Neglect has a way of making certain aspects of a healthy, normal, emotionally connected relationship feel awkward, weak or even wrong somehow.
Unless you experienced healthy love from your parents as you were growing up, it's hard to know what to look for and how to know when you've found healthy love.
Because of this...
Childhood Emotional Neglect has a way of making certain aspects of a healthy, normal, emotionally connected relationship feel awkward, weak or even wrong somehow.
How often do you use these phrases with your partner?
- "I love you."
- "I care about you."
- "I want to help you feel better."
- "I don't want to hurt you."
- "You hurt me."
- "Please support me."
- "I need to feel closer."
- "I need your help."
- "I want to work through this with you."
- "This is important to me, I need it in order to feel happy."
- "It hurt me when you said this."
- "I need to talk about that."
- "I'm upset about this."
If you don't use most of these phrases, chances are you didn't hear these phrases from your parents as you were growing up.
These kinds of emotional statements are needed to create a healthy relationship.
And if you grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, speaking these phrases can feel like a sign of weakness or make you feel too vulnerable.
Same thing for expressing any kind of warmth, affection, or love.
It can feel awkward or even "banned" if those kinds of things didn't happen verbally or physically in your childhood home.
That's why I created...
These kinds of emotional statements are needed to create a healthy relationship.
And if you grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, speaking these phrases can feel like a sign of weakness or make you feel too vulnerable.
Same thing for expressing any kind of warmth, affection, or love.
It can feel awkward or even "banned" if those kinds of things didn't happen verbally or physically in your childhood home.
That's why I created...
Secrets of a Healthy Relationship
This training is all about walking you through exactly what a healthy relationship really looks like, feels like and even sounds like.
We will cover exactly what these inevitable roadblocks are that CEN throws in your path to achieving an amazing relationship – and how to get past them just by recognizing them.
If you currently don't have a partner and you don't trust yourself to find a healthy relationship because you have made some unhealthy choices in the past...
This training will give you a whole new set of tools so that you can begin to trust yourself to recognize true love and fully receive it from an emotionally healthy and supportive partner.
We will cover exactly what these inevitable roadblocks are that CEN throws in your path to achieving an amazing relationship – and how to get past them just by recognizing them.
If you currently don't have a partner and you don't trust yourself to find a healthy relationship because you have made some unhealthy choices in the past...
This training will give you a whole new set of tools so that you can begin to trust yourself to recognize true love and fully receive it from an emotionally healthy and supportive partner.
What you'll get
Part 1: What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?
I will talk about a question I get all the time from both couples and individuals: "What does a healthy relationship look like and feel like?"
If you grew up in an emotionally neglectful family, it makes it hard to know what a healthy relationship looks like.
Unless you experienced healthy love from your parents as you were growing up, it's hard to know what to look for and how to know when you've found healthy love.
I'll show exactly how healthy couples feel, communicate, and fight.
I'll also tell you about the three stages a relationship goes through, which most people don't know about... And how understanding these stages can help you create the healthy relationship you've always wanted.
If you grew up in an emotionally neglectful family, it makes it hard to know what a healthy relationship looks like.
Unless you experienced healthy love from your parents as you were growing up, it's hard to know what to look for and how to know when you've found healthy love.
I'll show exactly how healthy couples feel, communicate, and fight.
I'll also tell you about the three stages a relationship goes through, which most people don't know about... And how understanding these stages can help you create the healthy relationship you've always wanted.
"ALL of it was so helpful...especially the description of what love feels like since I was told I was loved frequently and yet I never felt loved and after several failed relationships just assumed I must not know how to love right."
Part 2: Facing Your CEN Roadblocks to a Healthy Relationship
In this section, I'll talk about the specific roadblocks that CEN throws in your path that can prevent you from allowing yourself to being emotionally vulnerable and connected in a relationship.
I'll show how CEN makes you deny your own needs and hold yourself back.
How you can get too comfortable being lonely.
And how you may not have had the chance to learn some vital emotion-skills that you need for a healthy relationship.
Growing up, CEN people learn the message: "Don't rock the boat".
And in a partnership, you absolutely have to rock the boat all the time.
But rocking the boat is a good thing in a relationship. You just have to learn how do it in order to work through things together.
I'll show how CEN makes you deny your own needs and hold yourself back.
How you can get too comfortable being lonely.
And how you may not have had the chance to learn some vital emotion-skills that you need for a healthy relationship.
Growing up, CEN people learn the message: "Don't rock the boat".
And in a partnership, you absolutely have to rock the boat all the time.
But rocking the boat is a good thing in a relationship. You just have to learn how do it in order to work through things together.
"I really valued the simplification of how a CEN person's inner world might be. Starting with the first video of feeling ashamed of wanting a relationship through being uncomfortable yet comfortable being alone. The most powerful video is the breakdown of not knowing yourself and not treating yourself well."
Your Life After the Program
Once you've worked through the program, you'll have a good start on making some significant changes on your expectations for a healthy relationship. If you do the work going forward with dedication and persistence, your life will change.
- You will understand what a healthy relationship looks like and why Childhood Emotional Neglect makes certain elements of a healthy relationship feel wrong.
- You will break through the specific roadblocks CEN throws in your path that can prevent you from allowing yourself to being emotionally vulnerable and connected in a relationship.
- You will trust yourself to recognize true love and fully receive it from an emotionally healthy and supportive partner... even if you currently don't have a partner and you don't trust yourself to find a healthy relationship because you have made some unhealthy choices in the past.
- You will finally understand what love really is and how to recognize it, feel it, and encourage it to grow in a relationship – whether or not you have a current partner.
This program will be helpful whether you are currently in a relationship, just left a relationship, are considering entering a relationship, or are working toward opening your heart and mind to a relationship.
"We have come so far from where we were just 2 years ago, and I am able to reset and renew my commitment to him; us; and our family. I have spent 11 years trying to get to where we are right now. Before I found CEN, were stark and bleak at various times and I was doing it all alone. Now, I feel like I have a partner in your encouragement, support, and, of course, PROGRAM FULL OF NEW TOOLS OR NEW WAYS TO USE OLD TOOLS. Thank you so much Dr. Webb. You've been such a wonderful and hopeful help to me, to him, and to us. So much more than you could possibly understand."
Creating Your Healthy Relationship
This program is all about helping you break out of unhealthy patterns caused by Childhood Emotional Neglect.
I'll show how CEN can make you deny your own needs and hold yourself back...
How you can get too comfortable being lonely...
And how you may not have had the chance to learn some vital emotion-skills that you need for a healthy relationship.
You will walk away feeling like the hurdles CEN has thrown at you can be overcome and managed.
What didn't happen for you as a child is not your fault.
But now, as an adult, you can face what you missed, connect with your feelings and emotional needs, and work towards having the connected, emotionally meaningful relationship that will fulfill you.
Maybe you have had past relationships that didn't turn out so well and you want to be able to trust yourself to find and engage in a healthy relationship in the future...
Or maybe you are in a current relationship that is not as close or emotionally intimate as you would like it to be.
This program will help you understand what a healthy relationship looks like so you can avoid all your past mistakes and know what to look for in an emotionally healthy partner.
You will learn a great deal about how relationships work, how healthy love feels, and what can go wrong in relationships.
I'll show how CEN can make you deny your own needs and hold yourself back...
How you can get too comfortable being lonely...
And how you may not have had the chance to learn some vital emotion-skills that you need for a healthy relationship.
You will walk away feeling like the hurdles CEN has thrown at you can be overcome and managed.
What didn't happen for you as a child is not your fault.
But now, as an adult, you can face what you missed, connect with your feelings and emotional needs, and work towards having the connected, emotionally meaningful relationship that will fulfill you.
Maybe you have had past relationships that didn't turn out so well and you want to be able to trust yourself to find and engage in a healthy relationship in the future...
Or maybe you are in a current relationship that is not as close or emotionally intimate as you would like it to be.
This program will help you understand what a healthy relationship looks like so you can avoid all your past mistakes and know what to look for in an emotionally healthy partner.
You will learn a great deal about how relationships work, how healthy love feels, and what can go wrong in relationships.
"I really enjoyed the content. The section on recognizing and feeling love really resonated. I grew up in a household where I wasn't even sure I 'knew' my parents loved me, and definitely didn't and still don't 'feel' love. I have always struggled with feeling, giving, and receiving love in relationships. It is very sad because I do feel like emotional connection is the whole point of life and I feel like I have a significant disability in that area. Now I can learn skills to make things better."
So now, you're probably wondering, "what's this going to cost me?"
I have taken over 25 years of clinical practice and experience and put this program together. It's based on what has worked for my private couple's clients in the past. I have taken all of that knowledge and I have created a Secrets of a Healthy Relationship program specifically for the public that can be done on your own, with your partner, or with the help of a therapist.
In the best of all worlds, I would have each and every one of you come to my office so that I could go on this journey with you in person. But, of course that's not a realistic possibility. I've also considered offering Skype consultations, and I've received many requests for it from people who live far away and can't get to my office in Boston. But unfortunately, I don't feel comfortable doing that because of recommendations and professional guidelines of the Massachusetts Board of Psychology.
Thousands of folks have contacted me for advice about how they can work directly on CEN with their partner and a couple's therapist. Unfortunately, well-trained couple's therapists are in short supply. It can be very difficult to find an effective couple's therapist, much less one trained in CEN. And when you do, they are often completely booked up.
All of these things together made me realize that I need to make these concepts more accessible to people who don't live in New England, or who want to keep their current therapist.
I developed this program so that I can offer everything I've learned to all of the people who can benefit from it. I want to make this help available to all of the CEN couples out there who are quietly unsatisfied with their relationship, and wondering what's wrong with it.
No, it's not the same as couple's therapy or even one-on-one therapy. Nothing really compares to that. But I've put so much into this program that I feel it offers a high-quality alternative when in-person therapy isn't an option, or as a CEN Partner adjunct to your current therapy.
In the best of all worlds, I would have each and every one of you come to my office so that I could go on this journey with you in person. But, of course that's not a realistic possibility. I've also considered offering Skype consultations, and I've received many requests for it from people who live far away and can't get to my office in Boston. But unfortunately, I don't feel comfortable doing that because of recommendations and professional guidelines of the Massachusetts Board of Psychology.
Thousands of folks have contacted me for advice about how they can work directly on CEN with their partner and a couple's therapist. Unfortunately, well-trained couple's therapists are in short supply. It can be very difficult to find an effective couple's therapist, much less one trained in CEN. And when you do, they are often completely booked up.
All of these things together made me realize that I need to make these concepts more accessible to people who don't live in New England, or who want to keep their current therapist.
I developed this program so that I can offer everything I've learned to all of the people who can benefit from it. I want to make this help available to all of the CEN couples out there who are quietly unsatisfied with their relationship, and wondering what's wrong with it.
No, it's not the same as couple's therapy or even one-on-one therapy. Nothing really compares to that. But I've put so much into this program that I feel it offers a high-quality alternative when in-person therapy isn't an option, or as a CEN Partner adjunct to your current therapy.
I also wanted to make this program affordable. For couple's therapy for CEN, my clients typically see me an average of 20-30 times at a rate of $300 per session. Well, that quickly adds up to $6,000 - $9000.
Of course, couple's therapy is an investment of time and money which I believe is very worth it. The folks that I help with CEN typically walk away with many tools to change their lives, and with a different feeling about their relationship and themselves.
However, I know that most people would not be able to afford the $9,000 that it takes to work with me one-on-one. I've put together a program that is giving you the same exact strategies and techniques to heal that I do with my private couple's clients.
So no, this is not personal, couple's therapy in my office, but the good news is that it also costs far less, and you can have everything I've learned about healthy relationships in the comfort and convenience of your own home, to work through at your own pace.
So I have made this program available for $997.
And to make it even more accessible, you can access the program for just 4 payments of $279 each.
For that investment, you will receive the full benefit of everything I've learned, and the structure to work on your CEN recovery with (or without) your partner at your own pace, without having to travel to Massachusetts.
Of course, couple's therapy is an investment of time and money which I believe is very worth it. The folks that I help with CEN typically walk away with many tools to change their lives, and with a different feeling about their relationship and themselves.
However, I know that most people would not be able to afford the $9,000 that it takes to work with me one-on-one. I've put together a program that is giving you the same exact strategies and techniques to heal that I do with my private couple's clients.
So no, this is not personal, couple's therapy in my office, but the good news is that it also costs far less, and you can have everything I've learned about healthy relationships in the comfort and convenience of your own home, to work through at your own pace.
So I have made this program available for $997.
And to make it even more accessible, you can access the program for just 4 payments of $279 each.
For that investment, you will receive the full benefit of everything I've learned, and the structure to work on your CEN recovery with (or without) your partner at your own pace, without having to travel to Massachusetts.
Here's the great news... Registering for Secrets of a Healthy Relationship is Risk Free:
You're also protected by my
100% Satisfaction Guarantee
100% Satisfaction Guarantee
I also want you to know that I am fully committed to helping you recover from CEN. So much so that I am offering a 30-day money back guarantee. If you invest in the program today and do the work and you aren't seeing the results you want, just email me and I will give you your money back. I believe that deeply that this program will help you connect with yourself and your partner.
Ready to Reserve Your Spot?
Still have some questions before you reserve your spot?
1) How is the program different from your book "Running on Empty No More"?
In my book, Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships, I used the stories of two different CEN families to describe how Childhood Emotional Neglect can undermine emotional closeness in your marriage, keep you distant from your parents, and be automatically passed down to your children. The book also offers specific strategies for overcoming those effects.
But relationships are complex, and, for most, CEN runs deep. In the Secrets of a Healthy Relationship you will receive much more depth of understanding, support, and specific guidance on understanding how CEN is affecting yourself and your partner.
But relationships are complex, and, for most, CEN runs deep. In the Secrets of a Healthy Relationship you will receive much more depth of understanding, support, and specific guidance on understanding how CEN is affecting yourself and your partner.
2) I'm not in a relationship right now, how can this help me?
Now I know what I'm about to say may come across as completely counterintuitive...
But here's the thing, in some ways, this program is just as important, and I would consider it to be even more important for people who are not in a relationship.
Maybe you have had past relationships that didn't turn out so well and you want to be able to trust yourself to find and engage in a healthy relationship in the future – this program will help you understand what a healthy relationship looks like so you can avoid all your past mistakes and know what to look for in an emotionally healthy partner.
You will learn a great deal about how relationships work, how healthy love feels, and what can go wrong in relationships.
But here's the thing, in some ways, this program is just as important, and I would consider it to be even more important for people who are not in a relationship.
Maybe you have had past relationships that didn't turn out so well and you want to be able to trust yourself to find and engage in a healthy relationship in the future – this program will help you understand what a healthy relationship looks like so you can avoid all your past mistakes and know what to look for in an emotionally healthy partner.
You will learn a great deal about how relationships work, how healthy love feels, and what can go wrong in relationships.
3) I'm in a relationship right now, but I don't think my partner would be interested in participating with me on this program, so how can this help me?
If your partner is not interested in doing this work, this program will help you do the work on your own. You will learn so much about how to feel heard and valued, what you deserve and how to claim it for yourself, with or without your partner.
The last thing I want is for you to miss out on the most transformative training that I've created for people looking to create a healthy partnership so they can feel known, heard, trusted and accepted by their partner while fully being themselves.
Relationships are complicated and because of that, it can be difficult to find the right kind of help to work through complicated situations. This program provides the structure and key principles to unpack your experience of the relationship and gives you the tools to change the course of it.
The last thing I want is for you to miss out on the most transformative training that I've created for people looking to create a healthy partnership so they can feel known, heard, trusted and accepted by their partner while fully being themselves.
Relationships are complicated and because of that, it can be difficult to find the right kind of help to work through complicated situations. This program provides the structure and key principles to unpack your experience of the relationship and gives you the tools to change the course of it.
4) How is this program different from your "Fuel Up For Life" Program?
My Fuel Up For Life Program is specifically designed to provide individual members with self-understanding, support, and guidance to heal their CEN. It walks members through the 5 Stages of CEN recovery, from reconnecting with your feelings to learning the emotion skills so that you can use them to energize, connect, and guide you in your life.
In contrast, my Secrets of a Healthy Relationship Program focuses less on individual healing and more on walking you through exactly what a healthy relationship really looks like, feels like and even sounds like. In this program, you will learn exactly what the roadblocks are that CEN throws in your path to achieving an amazing relationship – and how to get past them just by recognizing them.
In contrast, my Secrets of a Healthy Relationship Program focuses less on individual healing and more on walking you through exactly what a healthy relationship really looks like, feels like and even sounds like. In this program, you will learn exactly what the roadblocks are that CEN throws in your path to achieving an amazing relationship – and how to get past them just by recognizing them.
5) I'm already seeing a therapist. Should I try to work with my therapist on this or use your program?
This is a great question. And my answer is this: talk to your therapist about it. Is he or she willing to learn the full concept of CEN and how to help you through learning the emotion skills necessary to create a more intimate relationship with your partner? If so, then I suggest you take that option.
Many therapists will be very interested and able to help you. But not all therapists will be motivated to follow this specific process, especially if it doesn't fit with their style or theoretical approach to treatment. If this is the case for you, then you can use this program as a supplement to your therapy.
Many therapists will be very interested and able to help you. But not all therapists will be motivated to follow this specific process, especially if it doesn't fit with their style or theoretical approach to treatment. If this is the case for you, then you can use this program as a supplement to your therapy.
6) I'm a busy person. I don't have much time. What if I start this program, and then don't have the time or energy to put into it?
Not having the time and energy is the hallmark of the CEN person. You have it for others. Just not for yourself. But at some point you will have to make a decision: Do you want to feel more fulfilled, grounded and connected with your partner? If you're not ready yet to want that, then in truth, you're not ready for this program.
But if you want to feel those things, if you want to change your life and your relationship for the better, then you will finally make yourself the priority that you deserve to be. You will find the time and the energy, and I'll help you.
And if you get side-tracked by life while you are taking the program, no worries...
You will have access to the program for as long as I am running it. And I plan on running it for a long time.
It all boils down to this one core belief that we must all accept: You Are Worth It.
But if you want to feel those things, if you want to change your life and your relationship for the better, then you will finally make yourself the priority that you deserve to be. You will find the time and the energy, and I'll help you.
And if you get side-tracked by life while you are taking the program, no worries...
You will have access to the program for as long as I am running it. And I plan on running it for a long time.
It all boils down to this one core belief that we must all accept: You Are Worth It.
About Dr. Webb
Dr. Webb has been a licensed psychologist since 1991, and has worked in a variety of different settings over the course of her career, including a psychiatric emergency service and substance abuse programs. She has been the Director of several large outpatient clinics. For the past fifteen years, she has been enjoying her private practice in Lexington, Massachusetts, specializing in the treatment of couples and families.
Over two decades of practicing psychology, Dr. Webb gradually started to see a factor from childhood which weighs upon people as adults. This factor is extremely subtle. In fact, it's so difficult to see that it goes virtually unnoticed while it quietly saps a person's joy in life, causing him or her to struggle with self-discipline, or to feel disconnected and unfulfilled. Dr. Webb gave a name to this invisible factor from childhood. She calls it Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).™
"As I became aware of the power and pervasiveness of Emotional Neglect, I felt compelled to draw awareness to it. My goal is to bring this unseen force from childhood out of the darkness and into the light. To make people aware of it and it's effects upon them. To give them the words to talk about it and the tools to fix it."
Over two decades of practicing psychology, Dr. Webb gradually started to see a factor from childhood which weighs upon people as adults. This factor is extremely subtle. In fact, it's so difficult to see that it goes virtually unnoticed while it quietly saps a person's joy in life, causing him or her to struggle with self-discipline, or to feel disconnected and unfulfilled. Dr. Webb gave a name to this invisible factor from childhood. She calls it Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).™
"As I became aware of the power and pervasiveness of Emotional Neglect, I felt compelled to draw awareness to it. My goal is to bring this unseen force from childhood out of the darkness and into the light. To make people aware of it and it's effects upon them. To give them the words to talk about it and the tools to fix it."
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